So the newest video making the rounds:
My opinion: I think it takes the wrong tack. Yes, my husband and I lived together before marriage. Looking back now, I wish we hadn't, but put wishes in one hand and shit in the other and see what fills up first, right?
But no one....no one said anything. Yes, I was aware that my parents disapproved, but they never said anything and several of my siblings had also lived with their spouse before marriage and they didn't say anything. Nothing was said even during our marriage prep or by the engaged encounter people we met with for 6 sessions.
No one told me that rates of divorce go up for those who live together before marriage. No one told me that dissatisfaction with your spouse goes up if you lived together before marriage. No one told me that couples who delay having sex until marriage have stronger relationships.
To be honest, if an argument had been framed that way, instead of vague moral disapproval, I probably would have re-considered. Not to say that presenting a good argument using Church teaching is a bad thing...just that I don't know if I would have cared, at that point in my life.
To us, it was just the next logical step in our relationship:
3. Living Together
This is what the world tells us, right? And heaven knows, the Church (locally) isn't telling us any different!
Anyways, back to the video....like I said, I think for people like me, it takes the wrong tack. My husband and I, in our own disordered way, were committed to each, and deeply loved each other (obviously, otherwise we would not have gotten married). We knew that we would get married - someday - and had a future together. But knowing how much of an impact our living together might have on our future would have made an impression on me....not some a video mocking what we knew to be our commitment to each other, flawed though it was.
TL;DR: I think they are better ways to reach cohabiting couples; though actually talking about it in church, by priests and marriage prep coordinators is a great step - not ignoring it or looking the other way.