But (You knew it was coming, didn't you? Right? If you didn't, perhaps you want a more holy blog?)....
Sometimes, I get so tired of hearing about NFP, as a Catholic woman. Let's just say that some couples don't want to use NFP, and are open to life, and God's plan. I think sometimes Catholics can get so caught up in touting NFP that it is forgotten that it is completely licit to NOT use NFP (and it should go without saying, any other form of birth 'control' [artificial or natural]). This is nothing against you, Marc, my dear brother in Christ, but I, for one, am completely tired of NFP fanatics (again, I'm not speaking directly to you, Marc.).
For us, it's not about:
"Oh you're so lucky that you don't have to worry about loans, and debt, and other such things."
"Well, not everyone is as lucky as you to stay home with your kids."
"It must be nice to not worry if you're knocked up."
"But, NFP will make your marriage so much better!! Communication! Sunshine! Roses!"
"I bet you haven't even tried NFP. And if you had, you probably thought it was too hard."
#1: we worry about money - like any other couple does. But, we have chosen to 'down-size' a lot in our life (no cable, for one thing). We have also worked hard to pay off a lot of our debt, so that it is more manageable than it used to be.
#2: my husband and I made the decision last year, when I hated my job so much that I was so stressed out and unhappy, that I would quit at the end of the year to be a stay at home mom. It has worked for us. (See point number one.) It works for our kids, too.
#3: Children are a gift from God, and we would never 'worry' even if I got 'knocked up'. Our fertility (or lack thereof) is ultimately up to God, and we cooperate with Him in that grace to have children or not.
#4: You know, this one, in particular, really irritates me. Nothing will automatically make your marriage better. That's up to the three people (including God here) involved. My husband and I don't have a perfect marriage, and we fight and make up like most other couples. No one program will make your marriage sunshine and roses.
#5: We did take a NFP class. We found out through that class that NFP wasn't going to be for us. Too hard, maybe? It was more that we didn't see the point of it. (See point number #3.)
(Yes, we are blessed that I am relatively healthy when I get pregnant (besides 'morning' sickness that lasts the entire pregnancy!) - so there are no health problems that we would have to really worry about if I became pregnant again.)
I hope, also, that I am not being misunderstood - NFP should be promoted by the diocese and your local parish priest (and any other marriage prep people). It should be talked about. But NFP fanatics should also realize that just because someone is not interested in NFP doesn't mean they are artificially contracepting.
*Now that is off my chest, what next?*