Why is it assumed that because I'm a woman, I want to be hugged and kissed in greeting or in farewell? It's irritating beyond all belief to me. I don't know you from Adam, mister, so a handshake will do, thank you very much.
I remember at a family function (at an aunt's house) a few years back where I was leaving, saying good-bye to all and sundry, one by one, and came to one of my cousins that I barely knew (who was much older than me, so I never knew him growing up). I stuck my hand out for a handshake. My aunt (and a sister) derided me, saying, "Well, he's your cousin, give him a hug!" And I said, "Well, I haven't seen him in years, and don't know him well, so no thank you." I could tell he was embarrassed, but I've learned something about myself over the years: my personal boundary is something I will not compromise for anyone, family or no. Especially family. I will not sacrifice my health to satisfy societal or familial standards.
It ticks me off to no end when friends or family try to force that issue.
"I'm just a hugger." Then go hug yourself, you freak.
"We're family." Just because I happen to be related to you by blood or marriage, does not mean I want to associate with you on such an intimate level.
No, you have no right to invade my space. You should respect my privacy and my boundaries. And just because I'm a woman does not mean that I will automatically 'want' a hug and/or kiss in a greeting. I resent that assumption and it makes me want to smack you upside the head. Not everyone is touchy-feely and loves to be touched. No, thank you. Keep yo' hands to yo'self.
So friends, and neighbors, this Christmas season, take pity on us 'no-touchies' and stick your hand out for a shake. We (I) will be forever grateful you did.